Girl Crushes vs. Lesbianism

First of all I AM NOT a lesbian and have nothing against them, I'm just here to stick up for girls who are teased by their friends for finding a girl beautiful (but, not sexually attractive). A girl crush is where a girl finds another girl very beautiful, but not sexually attractive. Lesbianism is where two girls find each other sexually attractive and love each other, like a man and a woman do.

I admit, I have a few girl crushes.

Maryse: You have to admit, it's not bragging if she can back it up and even though Maryse is not the sexiest woman alive, she is sexy (But, does she sexually attract me? No.)

Layla El: WWE's English Muffin is very hot and she can be so adorable! (But, does she sexually attract me? No.)

That's about it when I really think about it. Those are my girl crushes, now this....

Taeyang (for the record, definitely not a girl): OMG, what's not sexy about Young-bae? (But, does he sexually attract me? Is that a trick question? HECK YES!!!)

So, there you have it, my break down of girl crushes. Don't tease your friend or make her seem like a lesbian just because she admires another girls beauty, it makes people feel insecure and self-conscious. So next time your friend says 'Oh, that girl is pretty', don't say 'Ooooh, you like a girl!' because in all actuallity they don't. They just think that person is just plain cute or sexy, they're not sexually attracted to them, like a man is to a woman and vise versa.

CandieCoated Kisses,
Layla

Dang it.....

I tried to stop it. I asked God why did I feel this way. I hate proving myself wrong and was in denial about this for some time, until last month. Now, I have finally embraced the fact that I find G-Dragon attractive.

I can imagine his cocky-self taunting me now (if by some slim chance we ever met and I told him this), grinning like 'Haha, you like me~'.

Anyway, a certain person on twitter (she's knows who she is) opened my eyes to the fact that even skinny boys can be cute. I'm a sucker for cute smiles on boys and when GD smiles, he makes my heart melt.

I don't care if he's cocky, as long as he's not a full on jerk. I can handle cocky men because I'm a very modest person and that would even us out. G-Dragon makes me smile everytime I see him, he's funny, adorable, and can be very sexy. But, it's stuff like this....

Friend: 'Oh, is that your boyfriend?'

Me: 'Yeah.....'

Don't act like you wouldn't be embarrassed if you brought him to an event with hair like that!

When I embraced the fact that I liked him, I was surprised at myself, but I have to admit that it was a pleasant surprise. I don't usually go for cocky guys (aside from Jin Akanishi) and definitely not skinny guys, but GD is an exception. Though humble, I'm too proud to ever say that to his face (if I ever met him). If I met him, I wouldn't know what to say at all.

That's all I wanted to say and I'll leave you guys with this:

XOXO,
Layla

 My cousin Alicia and I made a petition for WWE to treat the Divas fairly (because we all know the Divas want to keep their jobs, so they can't say anything about it). If you're a wrestling fan, you should help us.

Link: http://www.ipetitions.com/petition/treatdivasfairly/
Here's what I wrote about it:

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I think everyone knows by now that World Wrestling Entertainment's women's division (aka the WWE Divas) are treated poorly compared to the men in the WWE. No one seems to be speaking up about it except passionate, loyal, fans and even former Diva Maria Kanellis got the word out on how they wouldn't even listen to the Diva's opinons. Shouldn't a company care about their employees happiness? WWE doesn't treat everyone fairly, but the Divas definately got the short end of the stick. It seems to be, understandibly, taboo for them to speak about it (they want to keep their jobs). So, as their fans, shouldn't we speak up and stand up for them?

Some of the top problems Divas face in WWE:

The circle of champions:

The circle of champions is literally a circle. WWE is known (even in the men's division) for circling the championships around, favoring a select few Divas to win either the Divas or Women's title, and letting a new Golden Girl in once every few years. These women are very good wrestlers and some of the best in their industry, but other girls train very hard to get an opportunity to do that also. Here are the current circle members:

Mickie James
Melina
Maryse
Michelle McCool
Beth Phoenix

The championships revolve around these Divas and these Divas only right now and that's not fair to other Divas who joined WWE, wanting to win a title, and have undeniable wrestling skill. Here are the list of potential champions.

Natalya
Alicia Fox
Gail Kim
Serena
Jillian
Katie Lea
And more...

WWE almost didn't make Michelle McCool the first Divas champion, her boyfriend Mark Callaway (aka The Undertaker) put in a good word for her to the higher ups and they gave her a shot because Mark was a respected wrestler. Now, Michelle McCool is one of the top Divas in the WWE and has made a very entertaining women-only stable called 'Simply Flawless'. It's been very long since the Divas alone have entertained people that much and that only happened because someone spoke up for Michelle. How many other great Divas will WWE pass by, like they almost passed by Michelle? How many other great Divas have they passed by already? They've already released some women, who are now successful TNA Knockouts.

Promoting a select few Divas:

WWE is also known to promote girls with prettier faces, yet don't wrestle as well as the other Divas. Examples of more promoted Divas (ex: puts them in commercials, let's them win more matches, talks more positively about them, makes them the face of the Divas division):

Kelly Kelly
Brie and Nikki Bella

This short list speaks alot on how little WWE actually promotes the Divas. When they do, they promote Divas that the fans don't necessarily like (except little kids), which may lead WWE to believe that the fans don't care about the Divas in general when the only thing wrong is a bad choice of Divas. Another example of bad promoting is WWE let Nikki and Brie Bella win so much, that Nikki has a 21-0 record in all of WWE, with Brie trailing behind with 20-1. That's more than John Cena, Undertaker, and Randy Orton have. The Bella twins are the lowest on the WWE food chain, they can't wrestle very well and WWE knows it. There's a rumor going around that the Bellas are Vince McMahon's favorite Divas, but (even if it's true) the Bellas are not the fans favorite Divas, so that may cause fans to protest against the Divas division in anger. Just because of that fact.

Questionable racism:

Hardly anyone can remember the last time an African-American Diva was a face (excluding Layla El's short run as a face) and the last time an African-American or Asian Diva won a title. There are only two African-American Divas and two Asian Divas in WWE right now:

African-American Divas:

Alicia Fox
Layla

Asian Divas:

Gail Kim
Savannah

WWE seems to be doing nothing with either race of Divas, but sending them on wild goose chases for the titles. Most of these women have undeniable wrestling skill and deserve to be champions, but WWE doesn't seem to want the same. Shouldn't the best employees get promotions? Isn't that how a job works? Well, to the Divas winning the title is like getting a promotion. Is this racism? No one knows and we're not accusing WWE of being racist (but, let's not forget the racism Bobby and Kristal Lashley faced during their time in WWE).

Our point is....

The Divas can't stand up for themselves, unless they go on a strike or quit, because WWE will fire them. So, we have to stand up for their rights for them. Don't you want to see matches and storylines like there were in 2006 and before? The Divas are probably wishing the same. Now's not the time to be lazy and say 'Oh, someone else will help them, I'm too busy'. Has someone helped them in the last 4 years? No, so we have to do it. We're their biggest fans, and as their biggest fans we need to do something about the sexism in WWE, and petition that the Divas be treated fairly in the WWE.

- Written by Layla Eileen & Alicia V.
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CandieCoated Kisses,
Layla

Mini Still Talking - Chelsea Edition

Chelsea: That's right, I got more fashion sense than all the other bitches in TNA!

Mini Still Talking - Taeyang Edition

Taeyang: Where my money? You gonna give me my money?

Photographer: Hold still, please. This is a photoshoot.

Taeyang: Oh, okay....But, for real, when are you going to pay me for this? Rent's a bitch....

Mini Still Talking - Michelle McCool Edition

Michelle McCool: Sweetie, did a bear come through and attack you? That outfit isn't in style, never was in style, and never will be in style!

Maria: Just let me be myself!

Abstinence

First of all, I want to say that people who aren't abstinent or a virgin should not feel bad! This post wasn't made for you to feel bad about yourself. I made this post because I'm fed up with people saying that abstinence isn't real or obtainable (Bristal Palin). I am a young adult, abstinent, and plan on being a virgin until I'm married. So, technically, I'm proof that abstinence is real and so are thousands of other teens in America (I don't know the exact statistics). I've talked with some of my friends, cousins, and other girls I know about this kind of stuff. Only one of them wasn't a virgin and most were abstinent like I am. I know what you're thinking 'They're probably girls from a church or female empowerment group.', but they're not. They're ordinary young adult and teen girls that I know from various places, I don't even go to female empowerment groups. They are girls from different paths in life and some had different religions than mine. I, myself, am a proud Christian. And, even if abstinence wasn't a sin, I'd still want to save myself for the man I would marry instead of some John Doe I'd forget about down the line or regret. And where the hell did this rumor that not having sex after you're eighteen would damage your sex drive come from? That's just a lie made up by a teenager who needed an excuse. Come on, people....

Using a celebrity example of abstinence, I'll use Kevin Jonas.

I've always wondered about Joe, but I believe Nick is a virgin and Kevin was a virgin (go, Kevin lol).

He went 22 years of his life as a virgin and when he became famous he had all the opportunity to lose his virginity to some fangirl (who would probably be deranged and want to get pregnant) he'd probably forget, but he stayed a virgin until he got married to his lovely wife What's-her-face (I forgot her name, seriously).

Another example of celebrity abstinence is Korean boy band Big Bang's lead singer (and my wishful thinking hubby), Taeyang.

(Dang, I guess I'm forced to say credits to newsen.com for the pic)

Aww, Taeyang's such a good, Christian, man (or boy, whatever). He carries a bible with him almost everywhere, probably tries to go to church every Sunday, he's abstinent (I don't know why I'm laughing while I'm typing this). God, there's a few other reasons why he's my wishful thinking hubby (reading Korean Pop Addict's blog inspired me to create these names for my different styles of obsession), but I'll get into that stuff in another post. I'm glad Taeyang is an abstinent celebrity and that makes my respect for him grow alot more, especially because Big Bang is very big in Korea and he has every opportunity to be with some slutty bimbo (sorry, the inner hater is coming out of me) in a cheap motel after a concert.

My point is I'd rather wait to have sex until I'm married (I honestly don't care if my husband's a virgin or not, but if he was that'd be a big plus) and...be with my husband, who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with and know that I love, as opposed to a boyfriend who might dissapear from my life that year and/or don't know for sure that I love him. (Side note: I'm not a fan of 'shacking up' either. Living together takes the surprise out of the, hopefully, eventual marriage to me)

Abstinence is real. Most people don't it, but there are some who do. Abstinent celebritys are faced with alot more temptation than we are and that's why I respect them. The only people who say abstinence isn't obtainable are the ones who either didn't care enough to keep it or who didn't have enough willpower. To the people who do plan on being abstinent, kudos to you and pass the word about abstinence on to your children in their early years (10-15). Trust me, they'll listen. The words that impacted me the most were said by my mom: 'I really don't want you to have sex before you're married, but if you do, I'd be really dissapointed in you if you get pregnant'. I wasn't one of those kids who wanted to do what my parents didn't like me to do on purpose and I wasn't even going to risk getting pregnant by having pre-marital sex. And, the last thing I wanted my mom to feel was dissapointed in me, so I carved my decision in stone: I was going to be abstinent. I hope some learn form this post and if you did, I'm glad I could help.

CandieCoated Kisses,
Layla